How to Navigate the Biggest Life Transitions

By Jacklyn Fee

Living in this modern world is a double edged sword. One side of the sword gives us the ability to live freely and make our own choices. However, the other side can present difficulties and complications because the choices are so vast. As young children we are not able to make many decisions on our own. Eventually we become adults and these freedoms can feel overwhelming. When you are traveling in uncharted territory, you don’t have to do it alone. If the journey is long and the road gets rough, a therapist can step in and help you reach your desired destination. Think of a therapist as a navigation system – a therapist can assist you at any point of your journey, especially when you feel like you’re not moving in the right direction.

Connect with Consciousness

No matter where you’re starting from everyone needs a beginning. And the first step can be the hardest. When facing some of life’s biggest transitions it’s important to reconnect with your inner sense of IDENTITY. This is also known as your consciousness or awareness which is constant, always accessible and free of judgment. It empowers you to put yourself in the driver’s seat, lay out all your options and make moves with clarity. For example, a woman may believe that her identity is based solely on her role as a wife. However, if she inevitably experiences challenges in that relationship, her perception of herself may be greatly diminished. Who is she now? The goal of treatment would then be to look inward, and realize her value is her humanness. Her value is not dependent upon her roles. It does not lie within a title, a job description or an address. Identity is a person’s true sense of self in its purest form.

Identify Emotions

Step two is all about identifying EMOTIONS. When we feel scared, anxious, frustrated or overwhelmed, the key here is to simply take time to notice the experience. By learning to be the “observer” of your emotions, you allow yourself to experience them in a healthy manner. For example, a man who is contemplating a change in his career path, may experience anxiety surrounding the future and the unknown. This is a major life transition for him. Questions may arise such as: “Am I doing the right thing? Why am I feeling this way? I was excited about this new career path – what’s wrong with me?” One can only imagine how this could be an overwhelming dilemma. Uncertainty can perpetuate waves of internal discomfort. It can even be paralyzing. Will this man stay in neutral, make a U-turn or go in a totally a new direction? Whether he needs a jump start, a minor repair or a total overhaul, a therapist would make a trustworthy co-pilot.

Focus on Sensations

The final step is all about SENSATIONS. During a transitional time, we can learn how to use our energy in a positive manner. Here is an example of how someone could use their sensations to achieve their goals. If a person wants it to rain, they should not pray for rain. Instead, they can try to imagine what it would feel like as if the rain has already happened. How would your body feel? Are there droplets running down your face? Do you feel the muddy earth underneath your feet? Imagine it all. By tapping into your innate sense of knowing, you can empower yourself to know it will work out. Feel the sensation as if your transition is already well under way. “She knew this transition was not about becoming someone better but about finally allowing herself to become who she’s always been.” – Anonymous Therapists can help you open the right doors and allow you to come home to your beautiful self.